Annual Service of Remembrance 2015

You are Invited to Attend the

LGBT Service of Remembrance    


In memory of our brothers and sisters who have suffered violent deaths through murder or suicide because they were (or perceived to be) gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender queer or intersex


Sunday, October 18, 2015, 4:00 pm

Trinity Episcopal Cathedral

2620 Capitol Avenue, Sacramento, CA 95816

Jean Hansen
Founder, Sacramento Chapter, Parents and Families of Lesbians and Gays
Honorary Chair

We are heartbroken at the recent deaths of so many young people victimized by hatred and fear. Their pain and despair was so great, they felt they had no alternative but to take their own lives.  Their deaths have placed a spotlight on the terrifying magnitude of hatred directed toward gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer and intersex people and those who care about them.  Sadly, they have joined a lengthy roll call of people who have died at the hands of ignorance and bigotry.

Please join us as we remember their lives with love, bear witness to the atrocity of their deaths and affirm together that hatred and violence must end.

This service will embrace a variety of spiritual expressions and we will honor the names of over 750 people (and the countless others whose names are not known to us) who died at the hands of hatred, ignorance and fear. 



LGBT Service of Remembrance


The shocking deaths of Satender Singh in 2007 and Ruby Molina in 2008 right here in our community placed a spotlight on the terrifying magnitude of hatred directed toward gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and intersex (GLBTI) people and the people who care about them. Sadly, Satender and Ruby are only two names on a lengthy roll call of people who have died at the hands of ignorance and bigotry.


Founded by PFLAG Sacramento (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), the service is offered in memory of all who have died violent deaths because they were (or were perceived to be) gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or intersex. 


Distinguished citizens who have previously served as Honorary Chair include Steve Hansen, Wendy Rae Hill, Rev. Jerry Sloan, Dr. Darrick Lawson, Marghe Covino, The Very Rev. Dr. Donald Brown and the Honorables Anne Rudin, Darrell Steinberg, Illa Collin, Heather Fargo, Roger Dickinson and Dennis Mangers.


In 1999, the first Service of Remembrance was held at Trinity Episcopal Cathedral.  The following year, St. Francis Roman Catholic Church opened their doors for the service.  The third year, Pioneer Congregational, United Church of Christ welcomed us.  Congregation B’nai Israel was the location for the service 2002.  In 2003, St. John’s Lutheran Church hosted the service and First United Methodist Church did in 2004.  In 2005, St. Paul’s Episcopal Church opened its doors for this interfaith service that embraces a variety of spiritual expressions, including the Jewish, Christian, Buddhist, Muslim and Hindu traditions.  The service was held at Unitarian Universalist Society of Sacramento in 2006, at St. Francis Roman Catholic Parish in 2007, at Trinity Episcopal Cathedral in 2008, at the First United Methodist Church in 2009, at St. John's Lutheran Church in 2010, at Congregation B'nai Israel in 2011, and at Westminster Presbyterian Church in 2014.


Featured during the service is a period of time during which we honor the List of Lost Lives - over 750 names whose deaths have been the result of fear, hatred and intolerance toward their sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression.  The service provides the opportunity to remember their lives with love, bear witness to the atrocity of their deaths and affirm as a community that hatred and violence must end. 


The Service of Remembrance has traditionally been programmed near National Coming Out Day (October 11th).  This was in recognition of the fact that coming out is a risk and very dangerous for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and their families.  By coming out, people risk their homes, their jobs, their friendships, their faith community memberships, their family relationships and even their lives.  In addition, October is designated as Gay and Lesbian History Month.  Thus, this service reminded us that the history of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people has been fraught with injustice, hatred and violence.  Finally, October marks the anniversary of the horrifying torture and murder of Matthew Shepard. 


The Service of Remembrance has been recognized by the Office of the Governor of the State of California, the California State Assembly, the California State Senate, the Sacramento City Council and the Sacramento County Board of Supervisors with appropriate Proclamations and Resolutions.  Several elected officials have attended or sent representatives. 


PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and intersex persons, their families and friends through support, to cope with an adverse society; education, to enlighten an ill-informed public; and advocacy, to end discrimination and to secure civil rights.  PFLAG provides an opportunity for dialogue about sexual orientation and gender identity and acts to create a society that is healthy and respectful of human diversity. 


For information, please contact: Kathleen Montgomery E-mail ladyiris49 (at) 


PFLAG Sacramento Webmaster,
Sep 11, 2016, 9:14 PM
PFLAG Sacramento Webmaster,
Sep 11, 2016, 9:14 PM